No matter how bad the substance problem, or how powerless you feel, know that recovery is possible and there are a variety of paths to take when it comes to dealing with addiction. The path that works best for you may depend on personal preferences, available resources and the severity of your problem. Whatever path you decide to take, we encourage you to stay strong and strive to meet your goal, regardless of the difficulties you face along the way. Help, support and healing are just a click away.
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If you are struggling with how to ask your family or loved ones for help with an addiction, personalize this letter:
An Open Letter To My Family:
I am a chemically dependent person. I need help.
Don’t allow me to lie to you and accept it for the truth, for in so doing you encourage me to lie. The truth may be painful, but get at it.
Don’t let me outsmart you. This only teaches me to avoid responsibility, and to lose respect for you at the same time.
Don’t let me exploit you or take advantage of you. In so doing, you become an accomplice to my evasion of responsibility.
Don’t lecture me, moralize, scold, praise, blame or argue when I’m drunk, high or sober. And don’t pour out my liquor or take away my drugs. You may feel better, but the situation will be worse.
Don’t accept my promises. This is just my method of postponing pain. And don’t keep switching agreements. If an agreement is made, stick to it.
Don’t lose your temper with me. It will destroy you and not help me.
Don’t allow your anxiety for me to compel you to do what I must do for myself.
Don’t cover up or abort the consequences of my chemical use. It reduces the crisis, but perpetuates the illness.
Above all, don’t run away from reality as I do. Chemical dependency, my illness, gets worse as my use continues. Start now to learn, to understand, and to plan for my recovery. I need help from a doctor, a counselor, a psychologist, other recovering alcoholics or addicts and from God. I cannot help myself.
I hate myself, but I love you. To do nothing is the worst choice you can make for us.
Please help me,
Your Chemically Dependent Person